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Conflict Resolution in Relationships What Is Conflict Resolution Conflict resolution is the process that enables effective aggreement to be reached between parties with seeming dissagreement. The process of conflict resolution can be complex and requires imagination and committment. However the basic process of conflict resolution remains the same, understand your intentions, understand the other persons intentions, understand the impact of these intentions on the relationship and then look for acceptable solutions. The effect of poor conflict resolution skills on relationship is great The effect of poor conflict resolution skills on relationships is great. Whether we are taling about personal relationships or relationships in our working lives at some stage conflict will occur. If conflict is handled badly a relationship will gradually develop resentment, anger, frustration and hurt. When this happens it is inevitable that the relationship will suffer and even end. What stops me from resolving conflict? Many people sincerely try to resolve conflict and genuinely want to find acceptable solutions and yet they only seem to make things worse for all their efforts. Why can sometimes be complex however the reason things seem to get worse is because of the human tendency to become defensive in conflict. The result of this defensiveness is either, arguement and counter arguement leading to an angry exchange. Or arguement and avoidance leading to a frustrating and humiliating exchange. Or arguement and capitulation leading to helplessness, resentment and a further frustrating exchange. Understanding defence mechanisms is key It is important to understand our own defense mechanisms as well as the defence mechanisms of others if we are to avoid the outcomes described in the previous chapter. Understanding why we become defensive and why we choose the particular defence mechanism we choose can be very enlightening in helping us come to a significantly improved result. Understanding Defence Mechanisms enables us to Know when they are operating as well as what to do about them when they occur. Why learn To reslove conflict? Learning to resolve conflict has many profound benefits for both our personal lives and careers. First and foremost Conflict Resolved Brings You Closer Together while Conflict Unresolved pushes you Further Apart. It is also important to realise that is impossible to avoid conflict for ever. Which basically means that at some stage you are going to have to resolve conflict whether you like it or not. It is highly likely that learning to resolve conflict is the most usefull thing you could ever learn to do. Good conflict resolvers are happier and much more influential Once you learn to resolve conflict successfully your fear of conflict will dwindle to nothing. You will be happier for this simple reason, that a great source of fear will be gone. What is more good conflict resolution enables you to get more of what you want. How do I learn about conflict resolution? Book in for an assessment and I will design a program that is suited to you, your learning style and your particular needs. Commit yourself to at least a six session program and start to reap the rewards. You might also wish to go on and develop advanced conflict resolutions skills and start applying them in both your personal life and career. If you would wish to do this I would suggest my mentoring program in which we have an ongoing arrangement and you learn all that I can teach you over a longer period of time. I have three offices in convenient locations throughout Sydney I have three offices in convenient locations through out Sydney, one in Macquarie Street Sydney, one in Crows Nest on Sydney's lower North Shore and one in Glebe in Sydney Inner West. For an appointment please call my head office on 02 9420 0788. |
About Jim'Connor Jim is highly qualified and experienced practitioner who is genuine, professional and at all times focused on you. Over the years Jim has helped many people overcome the challenges that confront them. Jim constantly pursues ongoing education and training to maintain a high standard of knowledge and skill. He currently holds a Masters degree in Applied Psychotherapy. You can be confident that the help he provides you is based on scientific research where ever possible. He is a full Clinical Member of P.A.C.F.A (Psychotherapist and Counsellors Association of Australia) the National body of Psychotherapists. C.A.P.A (the Counsellors and Psychotherapists association of NSW) and A.A.C.B.T (the Australian Association of Cognitive Behavioural Therapists). So you can be sure that he adheres to a high ethical and professional standard. |
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