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Communication and Relationships The effect of poor communications can be great putting enormous pressures on relationships. Help for people who believe their relationship stress is founded in poor communication is critical to enjoying a full and loving relationship. Read on to find out more how I can help all concerned when relationship communications breaks down. What is Communication? This may seem a strange question. Most people have some idea of communication but rarely do most people have a complete understanding of what communication is. The following is the definition of communication that I use and I hope you find it helpful. Communication is a process of clearly and accurately sending and understanding meaning. This definition has two basic parts; the clear articulation or sending of meaning and the clear understanding of that meaning. If the message isn't clear then clear communication can't happen and if the receiver of the message doesn't understand the meaning clearly then clear communication hasn't happened. Communication is a two way dynamic. Which means that their are two parts to the process of communication. The first is the sending and recieving of the message and the second is the receiving and confirming the meaning through reflection. What are the symptoms of poor communication? When communication is poor people will soon escalate into difficulty in both their careers and in their personal lives. The following is a list of the possible effects of poor communication on both the personal and working relationships we all have. The person who sent the message didn't clearly express what they mean and the person recieving the message doesn't clearly understand the meaning. The result is frustration, hurt and missunderstanding by the parties involved causing a general state of defensiveness. The person who sent the message does clearly express themselves but the person recieving the message filtered the message through their own perceptions, assumptions and missinterpret the meaning. The result is that the sender feels frustrated, misunderstood, hurt causing a general state of defensiveness. The person sending the message doesn't express what they mean clearly and the person recieving the message edits the meaning of the message through the filters of their own perceptions and assumptions and missinterpret the meaning. The result is that both people feel, frustrated, misunderstood and hurt causing a general state of defensiveness. The person sending the communication does express what they mean clearly and the person receiving the message doesn't edit the message through their perceptions and assumptions and so they accurately understand the meaning in the message. The result is that the sender feels understood, accepted and validated causing a general state of intimacy and understanding Either the sender or the reciever or both have a militant or combative attitude and intend to start a fight. The result is no one is understood and a fight ensues. What should you do if you suspect yourself or someone you know need to improve their communication skills? Come in and learn an effective communication model and practice it. Being a better communicator is usually as simple a learning an effective communication model. There are two models for communication that I teach. The Impact Intention Model of communication and the Meaning Centred Model of communication. Both of these models are simple to learn and with practice you will become extremely good at both parts of the communication process. You will increase your effectiveness in all of your relationships, reduce the number of arguements, you will be able to recreate that connection that you want with the people you love and you will greatly enhance your life. The Benefits of Being the Best Communicator You Can Be Are Huge. The benefits of being a great communicator are profound. Not only will you reduce the number of misunderstandings, arguements, and relationship distress you experience you will also create greater trust understanding and connection with all people in your life. Your personal relationships will blossom and your careers will begin to take off. With greater communication skill comes greater influence, greater effectiveness, greater personal satisfaction and far less distress. If you are finding yourself held back in your personal life or career learning to be a better communcator is the best place to start. What to Do Next? Come in for an assessment and ask me any questions you may have. I will go through your situation and outline a plan that will get you the best results for you in your situation. The approach I use will be tailored to you, your situation, your needs and the way you learn and work best. Call my office for an appointment. I have three conveniently located offices, one in Glebe, The City and Crows Nest. 9420 0788. I have three offices in convenient locations throughout Sydney I have three offices in convenient locations through out Sydney, one in Macquarie Street Sydney, one in Crows Nest on Sydney's lower North Shore and one in Glebe in Sydney Inner West. For an appointment please call my head office on 02 9420 0788. |
About Jim'Connor Jim is highly qualified and experienced practitioner who is genuine, professional and at all times focused on you. Over the years Jim has helped many people overcome the challenges that confront them. Jim constantly pursues ongoing education and training to maintain a high standard of knowledge and skill. He currently holds a Masters degree in Applied Psychotherapy. You can be confident that the help he provides you is based on scientific research where ever possible. He is a full Clinical Member of P.A.C.F.A (Psychotherapist and Counsellors Association of Australia) the National body of Psychotherapists. C.A.P.A (the Counsellors and Psychotherapists association of NSW) and A.A.C.B.T (the Australian Association of Cognitive Behavioural Therapists). So you can be sure that he adheres to a high ethical and professional standard. |
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